How to develop children’s emotional intelligence

Emotions: crying, sadness, pain, cruelty, joy, empathy, affection, etc. They are human emotions. Like most human aspects, we are born with the capabilities to develop them and they are shaped with age, time and the environment in which we grow. Most of the information our brain receives is emotional. 10 % is expressed logically , 90 % through emotions.

Children are especially sensitive in their emotions since their immaturity and lack of knowledge of the world around them poses constant communication challenges and new experiences for them. Emotional intelligence is the degree of maturity and reasonableness with which a person acts in their environment. It is the effectiveness that he achieves in his actions and above all how he captures and resolves the conflicts and alternatives that arise in daily life.

How can we do to help them develop their emotional intelligence?:

– Let’s learn to relax and let them follow our example. Mental and physical relaxation is very important to be able to think clearly and efficiently.

– Help them to know themselves . No matter how small the explanations are, they never hurt. We get used to them and we tend to create bonds of trust and bridges of communication. Any circumstance that has to do with emotions can be an ally. Reflecting on situations will teach you to think about how you feel about them.

– Respect your processes . If you feel sad, try to find out the reason and help you overcome the sadness. Never encourage him to deny it. If he feels angry or disappointed, try to get him to calm down and then find a calmer solution.

-Teach you about the importance of taking into account people, what they feel, think and how they are at a certain moment. This will develop empathy and make them more supportive of the feelings of others.

– Avoid impulsive punishments as this aggravates the situation. What we want is to EDUCATE, therefore, in the face of inappropriate behavior , the correct thing is to talk to the child about what caused it, listen to his or her perspective and, above all, guide him or her on possible correct behaviors that he or she could have had.

– Help them understand that the way they relate to others is very important. We must dialogue with them about the conflicts they have with others and, above all, try to ensure that the solutions given are the product of responsible reflection.

– Basic rules of coexistence, feelings, thoughts must be followed. Examples: Do not let yourself be defeated by problems; Do not speak ill of anyone; Do things right the first time; Do not hurt the feelings of others; etc These rules constantly in their minds make a big difference, since when they act, their actions start from a more responsible angle.

– Prevent the media , video games and the street from being the main educators. This takes authority away from parents and guardians and creates a dangerous space for their emotional health.

At school, children especially receive theoretical information: concepts, subjects, etc. and emotional education is relegated to the background. Teachers, mothers and fathers expect a certain behavior from them when the reality is that they also have to be educated in that sense. The basis is dialogue and harmonious coexistence.

If you read this post with the video activated, the music will make you feel these words in a different way. It’s influencing your emotions!